Summer Vacation & Co-Parenting

Below, we will share some tips for co-parenting during the summer, so you can make sure that your kids have an awesome vacation:

1. Review your parenting plan. It is important to review your current parenting plan or custody order before the summer begins. Your parenting plan may already have provisions in place for summer vacation and holiday schedules. If your current plan does not, plan to work with your ex-spouse or co-parent to create an agreement in writing. This will reduce any misunderstandings, and it will help to keep everyone on the same page.

2. Share your plans. Communication is key when it comes to co-parenting, especially during the holidays when schedules can be complicated. Make sure you are on the same page about important dates, such as birthdays and holidays as well as potential vacation plans. While you can legally travel with your child during your period of visitation or custody, being transparent about your plans can help better establish trust and healthy communication. You can also avoid going to the same amusement parks or doing the same activities. It is important to note that a parent can petition the court to include restrictions and provisions about certain travel plans.

3. Be flexible. While having a plan is important, it is also important to be flexible. Unexpected events can arise, and sometimes plans must change at the last minute. In such cases, try to be understanding and work together to find a solution that works for everyone. Remember that the most important thing is to prioritize your kids' well-being and make sure they have a great summer.

4. Stay in touch. Even if you and your co-parent live far apart, it is important to stay in touch during summer vacation. You can use technology to stay connected, such as video calls, phone calls, and instant messaging. This will allow you to keep up with your children’s experiences and share your own. Additionally, it will help your children feel more connected to both parents, even when they are not physically together. It is also important to note that some parents include provisions about communication in their parenting plans.

5. Consider planning time together. If you and your co-parent are amicable, you can make plans to spend some quality time with your children that involves both of you. Your children may appreciate being around both parents and you can create memories that they will cherish. For instance, for a holiday like the 4th of July or Memorial Day, you may both attend a barbecue with your child or plan to meet to see the fireworks together.

6. Be positive about the other parent. Never speak negatively about your co-parent to your children. They love both of you, and it is important that they continue to have positive feelings toward both parents. Even if you disagree with your co-parent's decisions, find a way to express your concerns respectfully and without blaming or criticizing them. This will teach your children that both parents can work together despite their differences.

7. Prioritize making new memories. Use this summer vacation as an opportunity to create new memories with your children. Try new things, travel to new places, and engage in different activities than you normally would during the year. Summer vacation is a chance to try out new hobbies, indulge in new interests, and encounter new people. Encourage your children to have fun and be present in the moment as you make new memories as a family.